Raising children is very difficult and no one has the right to judge someone’s particular parenting style. However, some parenting mistakes are more dangerous than others and can seriously damage your child’s health. This video will help you find out what actually affects a child’s psyche and teach those who have toxic parents how they can deal with this issue.
When raised by narcissistic parents, children suffer from slowed-down emotional development or none at all, will most likely suffer from depression, anxiety, or post-traumatic stress disorder when they become adults and grow up into an adult that’s either a self-saboteur or a person ready to sacrifice everything to achieve high goals.
Children of toxic parents live in constant fear and apprehension. They’ll grow up into teenagers forced to listen to their parents’ complaints, adjust to a “complicated situation”, put themselves in their parents’ shoes, and help, tolerate, and console them.
Toxic parents might not see anything wrong whatsoever in telling all the relatives, neighbors, and family friends that deeply sensitive information the child was pressured into disclosing. These types of parents instill an inferiority complex in their kids since they don’t wanna see their child try new things and succeed. Their narcissistic self-love generates fear at the thought of their child becoming better, smarter, and more successful than they are.
These parents seem to “generously” offer something that their children don’t really need, but any refusal causes resentment. A grown kid starts thinking, “My parents probably just want some company and wanna feel needed.” So they accept the help, thank the parents, and offer something in return. But there’s no happy ending here because the parents will always remind their children of that “favor” they did for them.
The effect of toxic parenting on kids 0:53
Traits of toxic parents:
10. “Fear me yet love me.” 2:01
9. “You need to deal with adult problems, but you still have no rights.” 2:34
8. “Be the best but don’t forget that you’re not special.” 3:14
7. “Open up to me but don’t be surprised by ridicule.” 3:54
6. “You’re bad so don’t even bother trying to become better.” 4:31
5. “You can be successful but only if there’s something in it for me.” 5:28
4. “Do exactly what I say, but it’s your fault if you fail.” 6:15
3. “You’re such an inconvenience, but don’t leave me alone.” 6:38
2. “Accept our help but stop exploiting us.” 7:11
1. “Trust me, but I’m still gonna go through your stuff.” 7:58
How to handle a toxic parent? 8:44
-When raised by narcissistic parents, children don’t feel loved, heard, or seen, believe that how they look is more important than who they really are as a person. They don’t feel support when they try to develop their true self.
-For toxic parents, an emotional attack is synonymous with love and attention.
-Kids of toxic parents probably believe that it’s specifically their bad behavior that makes their father abuse alcohol to calm himself down.
-Even if their kid performs much better than they did once upon a time, all of the child’s achievements are taken for granted.
-Toxic parents force their children to be sincere and later use the same personal information against the kids.
-Toxic parents eagerly discuss their child’s failures and flaws.
-They enjoy boasting about their kids’ success so that others envy them. Plus, a successful child is a guaranteed better life for parents.
-Parents treat their child like an object: they make all the plans and expect their kids to follow along.
-Toxic parents never want to let their children go. Yet they’re always pointing out that the house, the money, and the food belongs to them.
-The kids turn into prisoners in either case: if they refuse their parents’ help, they’re ungrateful brats. If they accept, they’ll always be made to feel indebted.
-If you try to restrict access to your personal territory, your parents accuse you of distrust or even hiding something illegal or immoral.
-We don’t pick our parents, and we can’t really change them. The only thing we can change is our reaction to their actions. Limit access to your personal territory. Choose your personal interests over those of your parents.
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